Taking Care of Yourself as a Single Parent
Self-care is a must for our physical and mental health, especially as a parent. So why is it the first thing we tend to trade in when we get busy?
I know as a mother we tend to be nurturers by nature and our instinct is to put ourselves last. This can only last for so long. There is a reason the flight attendant tells you to put the oxygen mask over your face first before the child. Ignoring our own needs emotionally, mentally and physically can only last for so long. I realized several years ago that if I wanted happy, healthy and well balanced children I needed to be that same example.
So I had to find ways to put the oxygen mask on my face first and now I am sharing some of my strategies with you.
MAKE YOURSELF A PRIORITY
It took me a long time to understand that being a mom did not change the fact that I should still be the most important person in my life. I don’t believe its fair to parent my children if I cant approach them as my best self. Reminding myself to fill my cup first was a skill I had to practice and still work at everyday. Sometimes even scheduling it in helps.
SLOW YOUR BODY
As a full time working mom of three I tend to never take a moment to just sit and breathe. Have you ever taken a deep breath in the middle of a hectic moment? If you can take a few minutes to just sit, or even work at a slower pace – its amazing the mindfulness you can invite in.
Learning to create boundaries is such a crucial part of living that most people never achieve. This was a hard task for me as it was always hard for me to tell people NO. Doing this has freed up space for me to slow down and practice self-care.
MAKE TIME TO MEDITATE
Dedicate yourself to giving daily meditation a try and I think you will be pleasantly surprised. You can even meditate with your child. How great to get your little ones to practice mindfulness.
ASK FOR HELP
Took me ages to do this but when you are doing it alone (without a spouse.) Hire a babysitter, family member, or trade time with another tired momma. Swapping time with each other works wonders.
Put Your Own Mask Oxygen Mask on First, Momma!